my daughter has totally shunned me since her early teens. She is now in her 50's and has 4 daughters herself.
Earlier this year i wrote to my daughter--and delivered the letter marked " private and confidential" by hand to her address.
In my letter i wrote that i needed to discuss important family business. I gave my address, mobile phone number and email address.
A week or so later i got a call on my mobile--number witheld.
It was my daughter! First time ive heard her voice in many years.
I explained i needed the names of my grand daughters- so i could include them as beneficiaries in my will..
She refused to tell me--so i asked if she wanted to include them--her reply was they were all of an age to decide for themselves and she would tell them my contact details if they wanted to.
Ive heard nothing since.
years ago i would have been hurt--depressed--angry even: but i learned to live with it.
Nothing else i can do. But blood is thicker than water.